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The Buddha taught that attachment to desires leads to suffering. While there is no doubt that life can be and often is, filled with hardship, this isn’t the end. Pain and struggle limit the scope of our vision and cause us to lose sight of the bigger picture. I have learned that by accepting the challenges and even the paradoxes of this life in service of the Divine Mystery, I can find a deeper sense of peace and live a happy life regardless of the circumstances.

Webster’s defines paradox as, “a statement which is apparently absurd or self-contradictory but is or may be really true”. This is found when our spiritual teachers assert that existence is perfect in its imperfections. Seemingly glaring mistakes and difficulties can be accepted when one expands ones consciousness to include a larger view based on the Divine Plan of life which goes beyond our personal desires. We often do not see how the challenges and trials we are facing today fit into our soul’s growth on a much larger scale. However, all apparently meaningless suffering and loss that we experience can be transmuted into a golden gift is we see it in service to the beauty of our Highest Self’s vision for us. It may take years to appreciate the blessings in disguise that were sent through the seeming imperfections of life.

Another key to unlocking the suffering of life, besides seeing our pain in a broader view is to accept that contradictions abound and can peacefully coexist. The mind tends to argue and say “No! I’m right and you’re wrong” and vice a versa. But when we simply stop resisting and rest in the place of allowing both perspectives to be valid and true suddenly the fight is over and peace prevails. To demonstrate this point, a recent discussion comes to mind in which I was espousing the benefits of vegetarianism to a friend and they were telling me their reasons for consuming meat and why it is healthy for them. We both felt that we were right even though we had opposing views of the subject. The discussion ended with both of us opening our minds a bit more than before and accepting one another regardless of our differing viewpoints and letting go our desire to change the other person’s point of view.

The most frustrating paradox for me personally is the old adage “when you stop looking for love you will find it”. It is based on the idea then when we can relax and let go then what we are seeking will come to us without effort or strain. The part of me that wants to make something happen simply hates this concept while the other more highly evolved aspect of my being absolutely, without a doubt knows that this is true. Trust is the deeper issue that is at stake here. Trust in a larger more exquisite plan than we can ever imagine. Trust is the relinquishing of our desire for a particular outcome.

All paradoxes ultimately bring a person to a deeper level of trust in the universe. An understanding develops that goes beyond the linear way of thinking about situations and circumstances and encompasses a wider perspective. Paradoxes help us to begin to see life through the eyes of our Higher Self instead of through our limited vision of the world. I invite you to take the time to do some reflection and look for the paradox or desire that may be presenting itself when you find yourself resisting or judging some aspect of life. This simple act could be your path to peace and happiness beyond the confusion and suffering of life.